If your a teen boy who likes to wear girls clothing or accessories (maybe both?) and have a hard time getting your parents to understand, read on and maybe this article can help.
- 1Understand what type of clothes interest you. It could be something simple like jeans or makeup. In that case, it may be easier to explain. If you want to get the more feminine look or maybe full on cross-dress, be prepared for a loooong talk with your parents.
- 2Get to know your parents feelings on the subject. It may not be wise to ask spontaneously, "Mom, how do you think I look in these platform pumps?". Next time you see a man with androgynous clothing or in drag, simply ask, "What do you think about his outfit?" If they want to know why you asked just tell them you were simply wondering. Keep in mind some people are more open to boys with an androgynous outfit than a transvestite or a trans-gender person.
- 3After you fully understand how they feel about the subject, remember to always keep in mind how they feel. Approach them calmly. It might be best to treat the matter as if you were simply stating you're personal style to them in a non-pressuring way. Something like, "You know, I kinda like Bill Kaulitz and Patrick Wolf's clothes. I'm thinking about wearing something similar." If you want to look like a real girl, it may be to much of a touchy subject to handle so lightly. Be honest and let your parents know how important it is to you. Let them know that you respect their emotions, and would never try to dress a certain way for the sake of conflict and disrespect. Tell them you are open to discussing a compromise that pleases you both (jeans for school, dresses for weekends?).
- 4Apply makeup sparingly at first. A little foundation and concealer goes a long way. Even if you don't feel like wearing a lot of makeup, a good foundation can help hide acne and blemishes. M.A.C. works great on most skin tones. Try using a very neutral eyeshadow at first. Brown, copper, beige and a soft gray can look so natural and make any boy's eyes look beautiful. Sheer lip gloss is a boy's best friend! That's 'cause if you make a mistake it can be so easily corrected and sometimes not even noticeable!
- 5If you want the more unisex appearance buy men's jeans that are styled and cut like women's. Look for a tight fit around the butt, thigh and hips. If you really want women's pants be prepared to walk up to the sales counter, ladies attire in hand, and ask for a dressing room. Find your size first! Don't grab the first pair you see, hit the check-out and run. T- shirts look best if they fit snuggly. Cut the tags that may indicate what gender they're for. Chances are your mom(s)and/or dad(s) wont be immediately alarmed by you're new wardrobe.
- 6If you want to dress just like a girl and without alarming anyone, make sure you have a full understanding with your folks on your tastes. Keep in mind any compromise you may have already made and from time to time ask them their opinion. It makes them feel that you value their feelings.
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