How to Get Your Parents to Let You Wear Girls Clothes

If your a teen boy who likes to wear girls clothing or accessories (maybe both?) and have a hard time getting your parents to understand, read on and maybe this article can help.

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   Understand what type of clothes interest you. It could be something simple like jeans or makeup. In that case, it may be easier to explain. If you want to get the more feminine look or maybe full on cross-dress, be prepared for a loooong talk with your parents.
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   Get to know your parents feelings on the subject. It may not be wise to ask spontaneously, "Mom, how do you think I look in these platform pumps?". Next time you see a man with androgynous clothing or in drag, simply ask, "What do you think about his outfit?" If they want to know why you asked just tell them you were simply wondering. Keep in mind some people are more open to boys with an androgynous outfit than a transvestite or a trans-gender person.

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   After you fully understand how they feel about the subject, remember to always keep in mind how they feel. Approach them calmly. It might be best to treat the matter as if you were simply stating you're personal style to them in a non-pressuring way. Something like, "You know, I kinda like Bill Kaulitz and Patrick Wolf's clothes. I'm thinking about wearing something similar." If you want to look like a real girl, it may be to much of a touchy subject to handle so lightly. Be honest and let your parents know how important it is to you. Let them know that you respect their emotions, and would never try to dress a certain way for the sake of conflict and disrespect. Tell them you are open to discussing a compromise that pleases you both (jeans for school, dresses for weekends?).
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   Apply makeup sparingly at first. A little foundation and concealer goes a long way. Even if you don't feel like wearing a lot of makeup, a good foundation can help hide acne and blemishes. M.A.C. works great on most skin tones. Try using a very neutral eyeshadow at first. Brown, copper, beige and a soft gray can look so natural and make any boy's eyes look beautiful. Sheer lip gloss is a boy's best friend! That's 'cause if you make a mistake it can be so easily corrected and sometimes not even noticeable!
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   If you want the more unisex appearance buy men's jeans that are styled and cut like women's. Look for a tight fit around the butt, thigh and hips. If you really want women's pants be prepared to walk up to the sales counter, ladies attire in hand, and ask for a dressing room. Find your size first! Don't grab the first pair you see, hit the check-out and run. T- shirts look best if they fit snuggly. Cut the tags that may indicate what gender they're for. Chances are your mom(s)and/or dad(s) wont be immediately alarmed by you're new wardrobe.
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   If you want to dress just like a girl and without alarming anyone, make sure you have a full understanding with your folks on your tastes. Keep in mind any compromise you may have already made and from time to time ask them their opinion. It makes them feel that you value their feelings.

Should You Give Up Your Aim of Passing As a Woman?

If you crossdress, chances are you require to pass.
you desire to go out in public without somebody taking a look at you & wondering, is that a man?
In the event you pass, it opens the door for much more activities, & far more fun!
Shopping. Movies. Travel. You name it.
Passing is a thrill that every cross dresser ought to experience!
So how do you pass? Master these seven basic crossdresser necessities.


If you have been afraid to go public for fear of "not passing," it might be time to rethink your priorities. I think everybody has the potential to pass, but let's face it, it is not always simple. It could take years to master all the subtleties of running, speaking, and acting like a woman. And depending on your physical makeup, you might require electrolysis or even surgical procedure to be truly passable in all situations.

Passing as a woman is the Holy Grail to most crossdressers and transsexuals. But is it a aim worth pursuing?

For transsexual females on their way to becoming full time, these are necessary investments to make. But if you are a crossdresser with a full time job and a relatives, then trying to become 100% passable is probably not practical.

 than getting hung up on "passing" vs. "not passing" (which has disagreeable connotations of flunking out of grade school), I'd like to recommend you make it your aim to "blend in" in lieu.

Does this mean 100% of the population will think you are a genetic woman? Probably not. But it doesn't matter.

The key to blending in is to generate a harmonious female picture. Dress appropriately and act natural. Most people don't scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there is something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.

The happiest transgender females don't care whether they pass or not. Their main concern is being themselves.

Passing is great when it happens, but there is nothing wrong with being seen as the transgendered woman that you are! As long as you select the right surroundings and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.

How to Explain Cross Dressing to a Spouse

Cross dressing in secret can place a tremendous amount of pressure on a person, which is compounded when a cross dresser is married to an unknowing partner. The decision to tell a spouse about cross dressing is a difficult one, but essential for the marriage to be firmly rooted in honesty.

Difficulty:

 

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

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     Tell your spouse as soon as possible. Your partner entered into marriage without knowing a significant part of your personality. When disclosure is given, it's not unusual for a spouse to feel deceived. Be prepared for this reaction, but don't let it stop you from telling him or her. The longer you wait, the more negative the response is likely to be.
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     Talk in a private setting where you won't be interrupted, dressed as your spouse is accustomed to seeing you. Surprising your spouse while fully cross dressed is never a good idea. Your partner needs time to digest the information before seeing you in full regalia.
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     Approach from the standpoint, "I'd like to share something important with you..." There's no need to denigrate yourself by announcing a "problem" or an "issue." Disclosure is already an emotionally charged process. Negative terminology can only make it more difficult. Speak in positive terms, and get to the point quickly.
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     Allow your spouse some room. If you sense they're being overloaded with information, stop. You're asking your partner to digest something huge, so give them time. Remember, you've had years to think over your feelings. Your spouse hasn't had the same opportunity.
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     Answer your partner's questions honestly. You're likely to be questioned about your sexual preferences, and whether you have considered surgery. Be truthful and open with your answers. At this vulnerable point in the relationship, honesty is paramount.
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     Reassure your spouse. Partners often fear they did something wrong in the relationship to cause such behavior. Let your spouse know that cross dressing is a part of who you are, and not reflective of anything they did or didn't do. If you love and fully intend to spend the rest of your life with your spouse, say so.
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     Accommodate your spouse if they request to see you transform, but don't try forcing acceptance. Some spouses want to see the transformation right away. Others take a few months, and some choose never to see their partner cross dressed. Allow your spouse to decide when and if they'll meet your other self.

How to Explain Cross Dressing to a Child

A cross-dressing parent can feel the need to explain dress preferences to his or her child. This enables the parent to preempt an awkward revelation at an unexpected time; saving both parent and child unnecessary embarrassment. Approach the disclosure carefully, with the child's well-being in mind. Know what you intend to say before attempting to explain cross dressing to your child.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Young Children

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     Consider openly cross dressing while raising children from infancy. There are both pros and cons to this method, primarily involving discretion. While this does produce the easiest path to acceptance, be aware that very young children don't understand that some family matters are private.
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     Think about waiting until your child is a bit more mature. When a child is between the ages of seven and eleven, they're old enough to better appreciate privacy. They're also young enough to still be very accepting of gender differences. Best of all, at that age you still maintain a great deal of parental influence.
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     Use an occasion, such as Halloween or a costume party, to break the ice. After witnessing you cross dressed for a special occasion, bring up the subject a day or two later when you're wearing regular clothes. Explain that dressing up is an activity you enjoy at other times as well.
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     Allow your child to ask questions. The easiest way to explain cross dressing to a child is to let him or her lead the conversation. Using this method, you won't give them more information than they're ready to address.
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     Listen closely to your child. They may be unable to explain fears, so you must follow your instincts to ease them. Many children fear cross dressing is a new development, and that the family life will change. Reassure your child that cross dressing is a longstanding activity; that you are and will remain the same parent you've always been.

   Teenagers and Adult Children

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     Follow Steps 3-5 above.
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     Answer any questions your child has honestly. Be prepared for them to ask you about your sexual preferences. If you're married, they may also question your spouse's sexual orientation. This is a normal reaction, and although it may seem an impertinent line of questioning, it's best to answer truthfully.
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     Know that your child may question his or her own gender preferences or sexuality. They may have concerns about "catching" cross dressing urges from a parent, but be unwilling to discuss her fears with you. Your child may fear you are secretly gay, and that they could be also. Answer any question they ask, and provide them with credible cross-dressing information to assuage those fears. (See our Resource section below.)
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     Explain that you have not changed, but simply told him more about yourself. Then give him space. Be prepared for your child to display a variety of emotions, including anger. Teenagers and adult children often require more time to process this information than younger kids.

Be upfront and unashamed while speaking to your child. Children take their cues from parents. Their perception of you as a cross dresser will be colored by the disclosure experience.

If you have a supportive spouse, explain cross dressing to your child together. By presenting a united front, you reassure the child that the family is not dissolving over the issue.

If your child makes the discovery before you're prepared, quickly change into regular clothes before trying to talk to them. The discussion will be far less traumatic for both of you.

How to Come Out as a Cross Dresser

Coming out as a cross dresser can be quite intimidating. However, it's important that you tell people about your lifestyle before they find on their own. It's especially important to fill in a spouse or partner about your cross dressing. Coming out can go smoothly if you take time to plan.

Difficulty:

 

Moderate

Instructions

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     Think carefully about exactly what you're going to say before you discuss your lifestyle with anyone. Be prepared for many questions about your decision to cross dress.
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     Tell your partner you cross dress before you tell anyone else. She is likely to feel betrayed because you've kept this secret from her, so don't add to the betrayal by telling someone else first. Sit your partner down and tell her exactly why you do what you do.
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     Discuss your cross dressing with friends and family individually. People may feel intimidated to ask questions in front of a group. By having one-on-one conversations, each person can feel comfortable to freely express how he feels and to ask questions.
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     Explain thoroughly why you cross dress. If you want people to support you, they must understand why you do it.